Seanan McGuire (seanan_mcguire) wrote,
Seanan McGuire
seanan_mcguire
  • Mood: sad
  • Music: Halestorm, "Freak Like Me."

So very tired of the uphill battle.

I spent much of the weekend looking in horror at the news, and at Twitter, and at everything else. A man murdered seven people and injured thirteen others before killing himself, explicitly because he couldn't get women to have sex with him. That's horrifying. That's upsetting and disgusting and wrong.

And then the people started saying "we'll never know why he did it," and I sort of lost my shit and had to go away for a few days.

He actually SAYS, IN SO MANY WORDS, that this is because he hates women. Because women will not give him the sex he so clearly deserves. Because "inferior men" are getting the women he should have. Because women have too much control (IE, the ability to say "no, I do not want to have sex with you"), and so the appropriate response is killing them to death.

But we'll never know why he did it.

A lot of people have said very good, sensible, logical things. Things that point out the power imbalance and the assumptions based on his apparent whiteness (he was half-Malaysian and half-Caucasian) and the fact that if someone shoots basically any other group of people on the planet, we're damn fast to accept that they did it because of hatred, but that when a man shoots a bunch of women, we'll look for any excuse but misogyny. I have not been able to say anything good, or sensible, or logical. Maybe I'll be able to in a week or two. But right now...

Right now, I look at the mounting number of incidents where "she wouldn't have the sex with me" has been used as an excuse for murder, and I'm just tired. That's all. I'm tired of the entitlement, and I'm tired of the assumptions, and I'm tired of the "not ALL men" response whenever someone says "misogyny kills."

I'm tired. No cookies today.
Tags: cranky blonde is cranky, depression, state of the blonde
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The Screwfly Solution

admnaismith

May 29 2014, 21:09:06 UTC 3 years ago

It's worse than that.

They're online validating each other and admiring the shooter for having done what they just think about doing. There's going to be more of this. The government and the corporations and their lickspittles in big media are actively understating the problem. Just like with Kellis-Amberlee. Just like the Screwfly Solution. People who should know better are sticking their heads in the sand.

I fully expect an even more vicious outbreak of public misogyny during the next Clinton Administration, at the loud and obnoxious fringe-right media seizes upon Clinton's gender as a convenient excuse to get their low-functioning base to hate her.

http://jezebel.com/lessons-from-a-day-spent-with-the-ucsb-shooters-awful-f-1582884301?utm_campaign=socialflow_jezebel_facebook&utm_source=jezebel_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

I don't know what we're going to do about it, but I know whose side I'm on. I know wicked girls don't need saving, but I'll be defending them against Teh Haters anyhow, just in case you could use a little backup.

droewyn

May 29 2014, 22:22:05 UTC 3 years ago

There's going to be more of this.

Yeah; the point where I completely lost it was curled up in bed in the middle of the night and suddenly wondering when the copycats would start.