Seanan McGuire (seanan_mcguire) wrote,
Seanan McGuire
seanan_mcguire
  • Mood: sad
  • Music: Halestorm, "Freak Like Me."

So very tired of the uphill battle.

I spent much of the weekend looking in horror at the news, and at Twitter, and at everything else. A man murdered seven people and injured thirteen others before killing himself, explicitly because he couldn't get women to have sex with him. That's horrifying. That's upsetting and disgusting and wrong.

And then the people started saying "we'll never know why he did it," and I sort of lost my shit and had to go away for a few days.

He actually SAYS, IN SO MANY WORDS, that this is because he hates women. Because women will not give him the sex he so clearly deserves. Because "inferior men" are getting the women he should have. Because women have too much control (IE, the ability to say "no, I do not want to have sex with you"), and so the appropriate response is killing them to death.

But we'll never know why he did it.

A lot of people have said very good, sensible, logical things. Things that point out the power imbalance and the assumptions based on his apparent whiteness (he was half-Malaysian and half-Caucasian) and the fact that if someone shoots basically any other group of people on the planet, we're damn fast to accept that they did it because of hatred, but that when a man shoots a bunch of women, we'll look for any excuse but misogyny. I have not been able to say anything good, or sensible, or logical. Maybe I'll be able to in a week or two. But right now...

Right now, I look at the mounting number of incidents where "she wouldn't have the sex with me" has been used as an excuse for murder, and I'm just tired. That's all. I'm tired of the entitlement, and I'm tired of the assumptions, and I'm tired of the "not ALL men" response whenever someone says "misogyny kills."

I'm tired. No cookies today.
Tags: cranky blonde is cranky, depression, state of the blonde
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dornbeast

May 29 2014, 18:46:35 UTC 3 years ago

I just realized, the kicker is that the poison isn't the type you eat.

It's contact poison. So if you come in contact with the wrong M&M, you're in trouble.

And it spreads to the other M&Ms.

ckd

May 29 2014, 20:51:35 UTC 3 years ago Edited:  May 29 2014, 20:51:58 UTC

Plate of cookies. Some of them are fine, some of them were made with laxatives instead of chocolate chips, a couple of them are laced with cyanide, and another two are visibly moldy...while the rest of the cookies are saying "just eat around the mold! It's no big deal!"

tylik

May 29 2014, 23:10:36 UTC 3 years ago

What's a little mold? Those are Nice Cookies. What are you, shallow?