Seanan McGuire (seanan_mcguire) wrote,
Seanan McGuire
seanan_mcguire
  • Mood: distressed
  • Music: The Barr Brothers, "Beggar in the Morning."

There are lines. Please stop crossing them.

When I posted about depression, I said that I was giving myself comment amnesty; I said that I might not (probably would not) read the comments.

Since then, people have contacted me via email (when they had it), via my old email (which I rarely check), via my contact form, via Facebook, and via my Tumblr, to give me their phone numbers, to tell me not to hurt myself (which I did not threaten to do), to provide crisis hotlines, to make suggestions about medication (which I did not solicit), and in one case, to threaten to report me to the police as a suicide risk if I did not update my blog immediately to show that I was still alive.

Please. Stop. "Comment amnesty" did not mean "work harder to make sure that your words, your well wishes, your specific need to engage with my depression will be heard." I try to keep open dialogs on this blog, and I usually appreciate communication, but right now, this contact is intrusive, and upsetting, and seems to prioritize the needs of the contacting person above mine. Please. Stop.

This is why I do not talk when I am sad.
Tags: depression, shameless plea
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dormouse_in_tea

January 13 2014, 01:12:27 UTC 3 years ago

As someone who has spent a night locked in a psych ward (thereby almost losing her job, which was oh hey, NIGHT SHIFT) as a consequence of having a fucked up night while on the internet and having a "friend" in another state call the fucking police on her.....I will light a small, vengeful cleansing flame on your behalf. Oi.

I admire you for talking honestly about your depression and your risks. Because it helped me -- if someone so wonderful can have the same problems I do, maybe it's really not just because I actually am a waste of space!

May this year be less painful, to go along with its joys.

seanan_mcguire

January 13 2014, 15:14:47 UTC 3 years ago

I wish the same for you, my friend.