distressedSince then, people have contacted me via email (when they had it), via my old email (which I rarely check), via my contact form, via Facebook, and via my Tumblr, to give me their phone numbers, to tell me not to hurt myself (which I did not threaten to do), to provide crisis hotlines, to make suggestions about medication (which I did not solicit), and in one case, to threaten to report me to the police as a suicide risk if I did not update my blog immediately to show that I was still alive.
Please. Stop. "Comment amnesty" did not mean "work harder to make sure that your words, your well wishes, your specific need to engage with my depression will be heard." I try to keep open dialogs on this blog, and I usually appreciate communication, but right now, this contact is intrusive, and upsetting, and seems to prioritize the needs of the contacting person above mine. Please. Stop.
This is why I do not talk when I am sad.
January 13 2014, 01:17:43 UTC 3 years ago Edited: January 13 2014, 01:19:48 UTC
http://articles.latimes.com/2013/ap
Money quote: "...But if you're going to open your mouth, ask yourself if what you are about to say is likely to provide comfort and support. If it isn't, don't say it. Don't, for example, give advice. People who are suffering from trauma don't need advice." (sorry for multiple edits, was fighting with broken link)
You expressed that you have been feeling better, for which I am glad. Still, I find Silk's Ring Theory to be broadly applicable whenever someone is talking about a Bad Thing that Happened or Happens Sometimes to them, not just to Someone Is In Crisis Right Now ground, particularly when talking at someone might shove them into a crisis. t changed how I talk to people about Bad Stuff for the better, largely by getting me to talk a lot less and think about what I say a lot more.
January 13 2014, 03:54:59 UTC 3 years ago