Seanan McGuire (seanan_mcguire) wrote,
Seanan McGuire
seanan_mcguire
  • Mood: distressed
  • Music: The Barr Brothers, "Beggar in the Morning."

There are lines. Please stop crossing them.

When I posted about depression, I said that I was giving myself comment amnesty; I said that I might not (probably would not) read the comments.

Since then, people have contacted me via email (when they had it), via my old email (which I rarely check), via my contact form, via Facebook, and via my Tumblr, to give me their phone numbers, to tell me not to hurt myself (which I did not threaten to do), to provide crisis hotlines, to make suggestions about medication (which I did not solicit), and in one case, to threaten to report me to the police as a suicide risk if I did not update my blog immediately to show that I was still alive.

Please. Stop. "Comment amnesty" did not mean "work harder to make sure that your words, your well wishes, your specific need to engage with my depression will be heard." I try to keep open dialogs on this blog, and I usually appreciate communication, but right now, this contact is intrusive, and upsetting, and seems to prioritize the needs of the contacting person above mine. Please. Stop.

This is why I do not talk when I am sad.
Tags: depression, shameless plea
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beccastareyes

January 13 2014, 01:15:23 UTC 3 years ago

Joining in the expression of sympathy. Given that you have many close friends (who I assume read your blog), and the post read like you had found methods to cope and had the support network you needed, I can't imagine thinking you were in enough danger that violating your privacy was even close to justified.

Also, I know I don't know anything about medication* as I am not that sort of doctor (unless you are a moon). Seriously, that's why we have MD programs and residencies.

* Barring 'this is how Drug A affects me'. Even then, I know psychiatric medication can be hella idiosyncratic.

seanan_mcguire

January 13 2014, 15:15:35 UTC 3 years ago

I honestly wouldn't post a thing if I were actively suicidal, because that is how you trigger panic. If I did post, it would be to my personal blog, not here. It's just...stressful, that's all.

Thanks for being here.

beccastareyes

January 13 2014, 15:21:50 UTC 3 years ago

You're welcome. My condolences that people are causing you stress: that stinks.