thoughtfulMy first reaction was, naturally, "It's not enough because it's not enough." But at the end of the day, that reaction isn't enough, either. He was trying. He wanted to understand. So I figured I should try, too.
I explained how, when I was a kid, the only smart blondes I could find were Marilyn Munster and Susan Storm. How I wound up identifying with the Midwich Cuckoos, rather than the humans who they were threatening, because the Cuckoos looked like me and were isolated like me and no one understood them. How, as I got older and realized that what I wanted wasn't necessarily the kind of marriage my mother had, every gay character became a magical revelation—even the ones I would look at now and think of as stereotyped and cardboard. It was enough for me that they were there.
I don't think I saw bisexuals in fiction until I encountered ElfQuest. I definitely didn't encounter them in sympathetic roles, where they were allowed to be people first, and define their sexuality second. It was honestly a revelation to me.
I explained how important to me these characters were, first because they looked like me, and then because they were like me, and how it mattered for them to have a bigger part in the story than just "oh, honest, blondes and bisexuals exist, we keep them all in Australia because they really like the tax situation there." It wasn't that I didn't want straight while males having leading roles. I just wanted them to share.
I read three books recently where race and sexuality were just sort of there. They didn't change the shape of the story, although they were treated fairly and reasonably (and awesomely) by the author. One, Black Blade Blues, was an urban fantasy with an awesome blacksmith heroine who just happens to be a lesbian, and have a girlfriend. And while she had some personal issues to work through (which made her a compelling, relatable character), her story was still recognizably an urban fantasy story, with all the tropes and twists of the genre. The second, Storyteller, was science fiction/fantasy in the Pern style, where you have extremely advanced technology and fascinating aliens, but you're spending most of your time on a low-tech planet that might as well be a fantasy world. One of the central characters is gay; so are several secondary characters. None of them are treated in any way as either superior or inferior to the rest of the cast.
The last, The Hum and the Shiver, dealt more with race than sexuality, although it was notable for having a strong female lead who really enjoyed sex, had really enjoyed sex in the past, and was not in any way ashamed of herself for being a sexual being. It's not a sexy book; she actually has no sex during the book, for reasons the plot makes very clear. But she's not punished for who she is. One of the secondary characters is married to a Southern-raised Asian woman. Why? Because that was who she was. It's not a thing. It's never a thing. It's awesome.
He was still a little confused, so I tried another tack: in my Faerie, in Toby's Faerie, as far as I'm concerned, almost everyone immortal is also bisexual. People who are purely straight or purely gay are almost entirely changelings, and young changelings, at that. Out of the entire current cast, the only one I can point to and say "Yup, totally straight" is Toby, who was raised in the mortal 1950s, and never really considered girls as an option. Everyone else is bi. Yes, him. Yes, him, too. Yes, her. I'm not sure it counts in Lily's case, since she's a body of water that enjoys looking like a person, but she doesn't care about the gender of her meat-based lovers. So yes, even her.
Most fae marriages, on the other hand, are male/female, because the main motivator for fae marriage is having kids, and surrogacy isn't really an option when it takes three hundred years of steady marital relations to reliably get someone pregnant. So if you look at the first several books, everyone looks straight. I was too close to the material to realize that. I knew about Amandine's relationship with Lily, the Luidaeg's long-term Selkie lover, and lots of others. No one else did. What was on the page was heteronormative male/female love, over and over again, in all its good and bad forms.
As soon as I recognized that, I started making more of an effort to actually show the non-hetero relationships in the books. Not because I owed anyone anything. Not because I was pressured. Because saying they were there wasn't enough. It's never enough. We need to see those people, in part because for every kid like me, combing the margins for hidden people I could relate to, there are ten kids who just calmly accepted than yes, they were always going to be the protagonist. Mix it up. Make it different. Make us all learn to identify with other people, and take out the shadows. I learned to identify with straight white males because I had to, and I clung to my narrow band of options. How about we widen the spectrum until everybody gets the chance to learn to identify with everybody? Because that would be awesome.
I explained all this to my friend. I think he understood. And even if he didn't, he's thinking about it now, and he's smart; he'll get there.
I'll be waiting for him.
(*I won't name him, because that's not the point, and he's a damn good guy. He just hadn't thought some things through. Everyone has had their instances of not thinking things through, and it's easier when you're a middle-class white male with no particular religious affiliation. Everyone is you unless stated otherwise, in fiction. So please don't ask who my friend was, and I won't be forced to look at you sadly.)
March 29 2012, 17:41:33 UTC 5 years ago
For the record, I am hetero, but have quite a few gay friends. I fully embrace legalizing gay marriage and ensuring that the entire LGBT community is afforded the same rights as all members of society. To be honest, reading this post marks the first time I have had to think about my writing and the inclusion of LGBT characters within it. I have mixed feelings, and not just how it relates to one particular group of people, but to all groups of people. My challenge is this...
How does a writer balance the need to be "real" with her characters with writing about topics, people, and places she is truly passionate about? Should a writer add a character of a certain race, sexual preference or other that doesn't necessarily work within the vision of the story they are telling?
Maybe that's the point of this post; to get writers to think about inclusion so we are representing societies, real or created, in a way that is more realistic. I am trying to balance this with my own creative palette and the kinds of stories I want to tell.
Regardless, you have me thinking about it now, Seanan. Thanks! :)
March 29 2012, 17:53:08 UTC 5 years ago
For the most part, I've found that once I actually started to think about society and how it's made up, my characters have become more diverse without my needing to force it. You're not trying to write a bag of Skittles, where everyone has a different everything. But you also don't want just a bowl of green M&Ms, with no differentiation at all.
March 29 2012, 18:20:18 UTC 5 years ago
Up to this point in my writing, I have just written whatever comes into my head about the setting, characters, and plot I am writing about. LGBT characters haven't plopped into my head specifically. In my short stories, sexuality is rarely a dynamic just due to the shortness of the prose. For my novel, it is set in a post-apocalyptic Japan so race is a bit of a different challenge for me there trying to understand Japanese culture.
So, you're right. Writers need to think about how to realize a more fully fleshed out set of characters by thinking about it more consciously. At the same time, they need to balance this with authenticity. Don't add something just to try to satisfy the token LGBT / racial component. Add these dynamics to enrich the story and the characters within and to make it a more plausible place.
March 29 2012, 20:37:33 UTC 5 years ago
I think it's easy to write about what you know. I tend to write about more women, queer, and disabled characters, because that's what I am. I have to consciously think about including characters of color, because I'm white, and I gravitate towards characters like me. And that takes some doing. What I find helpful is to stop and think about the characters and actively ask why they are *whatever*?
Sometimes, sure, it's important to the character to be a straight white male (I'm assuming gender here based on name; apologies if I'm incorrect, and adjust as needed :) then by all means keep it. But if everyone is a straight white male (or female), there is a problem. Because the world doesn't work that way. There are all sorts of different people out there.
Just... actively think about it, instead of defaulting. :)
March 29 2012, 21:21:05 UTC 5 years ago
March 29 2012, 21:30:03 UTC 5 years ago
We all get taught that the default is straight white male (or female, as the case may be), and that's really our role models in media of any sort. Because not much else is featured, though that's starting to change, slowly. I kinda wonder what the difference will be when kids of a generation where seeing people of color, GBLT folk, disabled folk, etc, is commonplace.
It was pretty major for me last year when I realized that, no, I could write about gay or bi characters. I could write primarily about women if I wanted to. I decided, after a lot of thought, to change the gender of the hero in my urban fantasy (with romantic elements) novel to female. Thus, the cast is mostly gay or bi people, and mostly women, and you know? It's a far better story for it. Far better. Because I'm writing to my strengths, and I'm writing things that people (like me!) want to read.
So, I think it's something that bears active thought for pretty much everyone, because it can be easy to slip back into societal patterns. I try to think a lot more actively now about what I'm saying with my writing and the choices I make in terms of characterization, backgrounds, and plot. And I firmly believe it has made me a far better writer. :)
March 29 2012, 23:37:22 UTC 5 years ago