"You look tired."
"You should take some time, you know. Some time to rest."
"You should sleep more."
"You have to take care of yourself."
At the end of the day, I do look tired. Why shouldn't I look tired? I am, after all, working two essentially full-time jobs: I get up at 5am every day to travel from my suburban home into San Francisco, where I put in an eight-hour day before repeating the commute in reverse, and spending the evening writing, editing, and trying to stay on top of my frankly horrifying inbox. When all my must-do items are checked off the list, I collapse on the couch with my cats, and watch mindless television to power down my brain. And then the next day, I do it all over again. On the weekends, I either write like my shoes are on fire, or go to conventions, where I have a lovely time, as long as I don't think too hard about how much catching up I'm going to have to do later.
Why do I do this? Why am I working two jobs, with a massive commute in the middle? It's not because I particularly need the money. I know how to make a pound of hamburger last for a week; it's not pretty, but I can do it. I may like to buy books and toys when the cash is coming in, but I do pretty well with amusing myself on what I have then the cash isn't there. So what's the big deal here?
The big deal is medical insurance. The big deal is what can happen to you when you don't have it. The big deal is that not everyone has friends who can put together an anthology of massively awesome authors to save them from bankruptcy* when they get sick, as people have a natural tendency to do.
Melissa Mia Hall didn't have the same option. She died last week of a treatable medical condition, because she couldn't afford to go to the doctor. She died alone in the night, of something modern medical technology could easily have fixed. And yes, they would have treated her if she'd gone to the emergency room, but she didn't go, because she knew—as the uninsured always learn, as I learned, when I didn't have insurance—that it would be expensive, and she couldn't afford to risk losing everything.
My mother doesn't have medical insurance. Neither does my youngest sister. I work two jobs because I need to have medical insurance, and because I live in honest fear of the day Rachel calls to tell me that Mom was having pain and didn't say anything, because she knew it would be expensive. And if that sounds overly dramatic, well. Take a look at either of the examples listed above. One woman who sought medical care and would have lost everything without her friends stepping in; one woman who chose to die rather than gamble with the loss of everything she'd worked for.
And that's why I look tired, and why I wish people would stop telling me how tired I look. I know how tired I look. I just don't see where I have any other choice.
(*If you missed this: Ravens in the Library was an anthology project organized to pay the medical bills of SJ "Sooj" Tucker when she got hit out of the blue by an illness that required serious hospital care. You can see my original post on the matter here. Without that book, Sooj would have been in a lot of financial trouble. I think that book saved her life as lived, even as the hospital saved her life as living.)
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I would already be a full-time author in Canada or the United Kingdom.
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February 1 2011, 15:57:54 UTC 6 years ago
Yeah. I sympathize, and also think you're amazing for doing what you do. *hugs*
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Having now been among the unemployed for the second long period in my life it throws things like this into stark contrast amidst everything else. My family just got over strep and the only reason we did so without trouble was my wife's insurance. Were it not for that we'd still be sick. (And we're both still ignoring certain health issues that should really be checked out.)
Why is it we can't overcome the greed in this system? How many people have to die needlessly before this gets fixed? B-(
As for the notes about not being able to write full time I'm in agreement. There should be a way for artists (writers among them) to pursue their art without having to worry about themselves or their family getting sick. It would go a long way towards giving a way for artists or indeed anyone who makes their living independently considerable stability in their lives.
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I am much better now, and thankfully although thanks to my husband's current job I now have excellent medical insurance (which is no small part of the reason he's working this job rather than freelancing as a copy and television writer--something he could do successfully if he devoted himself full time to it; my husband is good and experienced in that field and if you watch a Viacom network, you've probably seen something he worked on in some part) that covers both the medication that keeps me alive and my doctor's visits, I didn't have health insurance for nearly six years through no fault of my own. I was doing EVERYTHING they said you were supposed to do: I was working nearly full time, I was putting myself through college because my parents couldn't afford to send me (or to insure me) but neither my job nor my undergraduate school offered health insurance. My undergrad school offered it ONLY to foriegn students. I was literawlly at one point on my hands and knees begging the president of the college to let us domestic students buy in.
He brushed me off. "Nobody will want to do it." he said. "And I can't make an exception just for you. Go the the ER if you get sick."
(he occasionally wonders why I won't participate in any of their fund-raising or promotional materials; he's dense, I guess)
I don't think I'd have had to get as sick as I did if they had, and I lived in fear that I would get something serious, like bronchitis, or that my appendix would go, and that would be all she wrote: I'd either be dead or buried up to my eyeballs in medical debt, and there would go college, only I'd already be up to my neck in college debt and I wouldn't even have a degree to show for it.
That this didn't happen to me was, quite honestly, pure dumb luck. I know other people it happened to.
You know what's sad? It's such a treatable condition and synthroid is cheap, cheap, cheap, but without insurance I was so afraid to go the doctor (or the ER), I would never have gotten it checked until I was extremely ill.
And even when I had health insurance I STILL got dropped (retroactively, even, making the thyroid problem that had NEVER had a coverage gap a "pre-existing condition" and impossible to ensure until my husband took a job with a health plan!) by one insurer last year because I had an echo-cardiogram to confirm that a heart murmur I'd developed was innocent (it was, they still dropped me, and my attempts to fight the dropping proved futile: the state kept telling me that the health insurance company assured them my coverage loss was "within internal policy" because the company told them it was. God I wish I was making that up, but I'm not: they accepted that it wasn't pretextual, even though I had access to information suggesting it was, because the company told them it wasn't.)
I hate our health insurance industry. I hate, hate, hate, hate them, and I don't say that lightly, and it makes me furious that I have relatively little choice but to buy into their system.
And it makes me more angry the only first world country that's so eager to let the poor die, and I have a WHOLE other rant on that, but I'll save it. I've talked long enough.
February 1 2011, 16:41:06 UTC 6 years ago
I cannot get over the sheer ignorance of some people. Part of my old job was monitoring autoimmune conditions in patients (including Hashimotos) and it is so not the same thing as the more usual hypothyroidism. Although it's awful that you can't get treated for either, since all kinds of hypothyroidisms are fairly easy to treat with thyroxine (or whatever it's called in the states) and monitoring of TSH, CT3 and Thyroid peroxidase.
I'm so sorry that you got stuck with that. The NHS may suck in a lot of ways but we have it and it's so much better than the alternative.
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She was nineteen. =\
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Oh, you mean like when I got whooping cough from a co-worker who came in sick, because sick days are not for taking if you're just sick?
I really hate corporate/higher ed culture in this country.
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Yes, this. I might be resentful some days when I see that 40+% of my income go to the state in taxes and various insurances, but on the other hand I really love the fact that I can always go see a doctor when I need to, and will be able to keep doing so even if I loose my job, or want to go free-lance, or ... .
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I hope things even out eventually, so that we can have more writers and artists and musicians who can afford to do what they love and survive. :/
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If she hadn't been on Medicare, I'd be literally destitute right now. And if it hadn't been for Medicaid, the state program, I'd have been destitute long *before* now, because I'd have had to quit my job to care for her full time. With no income to, y'know, *live* on. Her social security might-- *might*-- have covered the cost of her monthly meds. And that would've been it; either Tony or Fishy would've had to support us, if their incomes would've stretched that far. And even if that seems like the best option to people, it would be one less productive person in the workforce, and she would've gotten incredibly *bad* care, as I would not have had the necessary medical training, equipment and resources.
I remember tearing my hair out looking for eldercare places; good eldercare is for the rich, plain and simple. It's absolutely *insane* that the reason she got good care is that she was *poor* enough to qualify for DSHS benefits; if she'd been just an ordinary person, we'd have been too poor to pay for private-pay places, and too well off to qualify for any assistance.
...I meant to add, that's the really insane thing-- politicians get so afraid of "socialism" of having a healthcare system for all-- but there's one that's already in place, and it works. It's not perfect, by any means, but it's there, it cared for my mother for years; the infrastructure is already there to be used. If they would just extend Medicare to apply to everyone... there's already a system, set up, working, we know how to run it, why don't we just *DO* it???
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Apparently.
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February 1 2011, 17:53:44 UTC 6 years ago
There are, however, ways to for self-employed individuals to insure themselves. I'm not sure exactly what you require from an insurance plan, but you might want to look into self-employed and freelance options. And if you belong to a writers' guild there are usually ways to get health insurance through them. I realize this isn't going to work for everyone, but it's certainly worth exploring.
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Also, you are an amazing woman to do all that you do AND work 8 hours to keep your insurance.
February 1 2011, 23:28:59 UTC 6 years ago
It's one of the reasons our taxes are higher than yours. I don't mind at all I love our system.
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But I write. And I want to publish.
The question in my life is, "How much can I make with my writing before they take my disability payments, foodstamps, and subsidized housing away?" Because I damn sure can't make enough money writing to replace these things.
We're very, very poor. A little extra money a month would be wonderful. But because of this, I fear too much success. I like to think I'm a pretty good writer, but Laurell K. Hamilton or Sherrilyn Kenyon I ain't.
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This country doesn't believe in making it easy.
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It means that I have access to the benefits of corporate America. And it saddens me that I essentially only get those benefits because my boyfriend loves me enough to pay for them.
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My father's girlfriend works for a hospital billing department, and a quiet, dirty secret that doesn't get told very often is that they will, very often, cut the amount owed by someone by 80% if they work with them on what they can afford. They can't do anything if people just hide from the bills (which tends to be my default method, unfortunately), but those that work with them usually can set up a payment plan that they can afford at a fraction of the outrageous costs they've been charged.
Last year, a friend of mine who suffers from regular kidney stones got one lodged and ended up in the hospital with an infection. He had to have at two or three operations to deal with the lodged stone, removing the stones, and follow up stuff. At this point, he was unemployed and uninsured. I encouraged him to talk with the billing department and explain the situation and they did exactly what my dad's girlfriend said they would. He still has a significant amount to pay, but he has a manageable payment and they waived at least 75% of the fees.
It's definitely not an answer, but please please please, see a doctor if you need it. (You meaning anyone without insurance fearing large bills)
February 1 2011, 21:06:50 UTC 6 years ago
When my last health insurer dropped me--after I'd run up a bunch of bills for cardiology testing plus the continued treatment of my thyroid--my doctor, the blood work labs, and the cardiologist all knocked significant chunks off my bill and then gave me a payment plan. My doctor continued to see me for a reduced fee--$30 for a phone visit, $50 if I had to come in--while we waited for my husband to have enough time at work for his new insurance to kick in.
I still ended up having to pay about a thousand dollars, but the original bill was four, and they let me pay over the course of a year.
I know a lot of doctors and most of them genuinely care about and want to help their patients (and they hate the insurance industry more than we do, most of the time.)
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