crankySometimes I have bitchy days. Sometimes I've been woken up repeatedly during the night to arbitrate disagreements between the cats, or it was too hot to sleep, or I have lots of deadlines I need to take care of, or I just have a really painful zit in my ear. Whatever. I am a person, I have a right to the ball, and that ball includes the occasional bitchy day. Sometimes, I am not a happy little bundle of sunshine and zombie puppies, ready to spread my pathogenic joy across the world.
On those days, I tend to stay mostly in my room (or the nearest available equivalent), working industriously on whatever pisses me off the least, and interacting only with people whose response to my being snappy is "Yes, yes, dear, aren't you cute when you try to bite me, here, have a rawhide chew." I don't answer email unless I have to, because it's never nice to take somebody's face off just for asking when the next book is coming out (An Artificial Night, 9/10; Late Eclipses, 3/11; Deadline, 5/11, by the way). At that point, if you pursue me into my hole, well...
The reason I bring this up is that I've seen a tendency to write off female characters who aren't always sweetness, light, and the joy at the end of the sunshine tunnel. Jean Gray may destroy planets, but she does it while baking cookies, while Emma Frost saves the world and sneers. Jean is thus clearly the better heroine, more deserving of love and compassion and all that other wacky stuff. Wolverine, on the other hand, is an unremitting bastard, and that makes him cool. That makes him edgy. Because he's bad, see? He's bad.
I once had a proofreader return a scene from one of the Toby books with the note that Toby was being a real unbearable bitch. I wrote back, and suggested that for every instance of "October Daye," they substitute the male protagonist of their choice (they went with Harry Dresden) before looking at the scene again. The complaint was summarily withdrawn. To which I can only say, seriously, what the hell? Why is it tough and cool and all that other stuff from a male protagonist, but incredibly bitchy and hateful and awful from a female protagonist? Why do we all have to be Pollyanna, all the time?
Now, I am a natural Marilyn Munster, which means that ninety percent of the time, I'm happy and bubbly and ready to slather you in plague-carrying bats. But that doesn't mean that the Wednesday Addams girls are somehow less valid, or less deserving of their own stories. And it doesn't mean I'm not allowed to have a grumpy day once in a while. I'm just not allowed to use my grumpy day as an excuse for immuno-depressant smallpox.
Hmmph.
June 7 2010, 21:02:15 UTC 7 years ago
Women somehow are supposed to have a sell-by date or something - as you might imagine, I tend to ignore such things. I'm not a commodity, after all.
I may work very hard at being kind - and fair, even though that's a completely manufactured concept possible only through sentient intelligence - but attempting to be anything other than honest doesn't work and some days - that makes me a very pointy stick.
I have three different kinds of tomatoes planted in the garden - so I have something to look forward to. They also don't care if I curse or praise them, so guess what. They get a lot of attention. ^^
I also have 'dogshit burrito' on pre-load for anyone who calls me a bitch...or something. They'd have to work a little harder to get anything more original. In my head, other things. ^^
And for the record, all the tough, cool, nasty things they let the boys get away with aren't appealing in the least - and I don't understand their attraction at all, but I'm expected to take it onboard anyway. Here, have a raw egg shampoo, Bubba. Want flying lessons?
So not taking it personally - love, me. Tomorrow will be better.
June 7 2010, 21:22:47 UTC 7 years ago
"I was not put on this earth to be a perfect cup of tea. Deal."
Yes, I would only change the one word, because- hey- you are SOMEONE'S perfect cup of tea! (Your own!)
Oooh, what sorts of tomatoes do you have planted?
June 7 2010, 22:52:40 UTC 7 years ago
The third is a very tame salad red from Target's bargain bin. If they aren't cherry tomatoes, I'll be very surprised.