tired"Isn't this the store that made that ad?" Mom asked.
"Which ad?"
"The one they wouldn't show on TV."
"Oh. Yeah."
For those of you who managed to miss this whole thing, Fox and ABC refused to air a Lane Bryant commercial, saying that it was inappropriate, despite the fact that both networks air commercials for Victoria's Secret. Now, I've seen both commercials, and if you want to talk comparative nudity, well. The new line from Victoria's Secret is actually called "Naked." The Lane Bryant lingerie, on the other hand, covers a lot more, while committing the dual sins of a) being made for plus-sized women, and b) being reasonably attractive. That's obscene! We can't show that to our children, especially not during Dancing With the Stars, a show that features women wearing costumes that are closer to rumor than reality! That would be wrong! That would be...that would...
Wait, what?
Of course, the networks insist that this isn't a comment about Lane Bryant's lingerie being worn by plus-size models, even though, well, it's either that, or a comment on the immorality of wearing bras that come in colors. Rainbow Brite should be ashamed of herself. Meanwhile, over in Victoria's Secret-land, all the models are modestly wearing undies the exact color of their skins, making them look totally nude if you're not paying close attention. Much more modest.
"Why?"
"Because the models were fat, Mom."
"Really?"
"Yeah."
"But that doesn't make sense."
"Tell me about it."
The current culture of fat shaming isn't just depressing; it's outright scary. It's dehumanizing. Fat women are "whales" and "cows," not just, I don't know, fat women. Women come in all shapes and sizes! Women are healthy at all shapes and sizes! My youngest sister weighs about fifty pounds more than I do, and she is smoking hot, like a plus-sized Betty Page gone tattoo model. She dresses like she's hot, she walks like she's hot, and you know what? She's hot! She's also healthy, active, smart, and all those other things that some people think "fatties" aren't allowed to be. She looks better at her current weight than I ever would, because she's built that way.
This may be a bit of a shock to some of the folks out there deciding what is and isn't "decent," but not all bodies were created from the same template. If Kate and I were to eat identical things and do identical amounts of exercise for a week, we would not lose identical amounts of weight. If Vixy and I were to each gain ten pounds, they would not distribute themselves in identical places on our bodies. I know people who can gain weight on nothing but broccoli and lean meat, and people who can lose weight on a diet of chocolate bonbons. Fat shaming solves nothing. It doesn't make the world's plus-sized population disappear in a puff of Twinkie-scented smoke; it just makes teenage girls develop eating disorders, grown women lie about their weight, and small children tell their mothers they don't want dinner because they're scared of getting fat.
"That's just stupid."
"I know."
"Those people should cut that out."
Also, on the practical side of things...women are more likely to go out in public, and exercise voluntarily, when they're wearing good bras. This goes double for plus-sized women, who are (surprise, surprise) more likely to have large breasts, and thus need the support and stabilization of a good bra. So if the goal is really making all the fat women into thin women, they should be getting government bra service as an incentive to get out and move around more. Not that exercise is the absolute answer for everyone—that's another can of worms, and goes back to my "not all bodies were created from the same template" point—but hell, it would be a start. Saying "ew, that's indecent" doesn't do anybody any good. Except maybe the viewing public that gets spared the sight of all those "fatties," and well. I'm not so concerned about them in this particular situation.
"I wish they would, Mom."
"Tell them that."
"Okay."
Part Devil's Advocate.
May 22 2010, 22:19:29 UTC 7 years ago
However, one point you made that I have to pick is that you claim: "Women are healthy at all shapes and sizes!"
I kind of had a knee jerk reaction at that statement. I've never personally been overweight but enough of my good friends are, and I'll defend them to the death in the face of senseless bullying from strangers but they are even the first to admit they aren't healthy physically or mentally. To sum it up I'll use my buddy Steve's quote "I ran once... bad idea."
I can understand being content with who you are but many, including my girlfriend whom I spent a good part of the day being her shoulder to cry on the day she came home from the doctor whom had just informed her that she is obese. The problem is perpetuating a sense of good mental health for those who are overweight is fine, but trying to say they're healthy that way may be life threatening.
To further play devil's advocate here and shoot myself in the foot from a debating standpoint by taking "slrman's" side in even the slightest capacity; I don't agree with most of what he says except this. While there are many medical reasons for weight gain, over-consumption has to be a leading cause. In spite of whatever may be causing it there is no excuse for the affected individuals going to fast-food places five times a week. My first job was at McDonald's and believe me those "regulars" were not healthy by any means. He does have a point in that a over intake of calories combined with a sedentary lifestyle will result in weight gain. I can't imagine that being disputable in any way.
In summation, I'm not trying to undermine you, or degrade you, I think that people have a misconception between fat and thin. I love women who are curvaceous, buxom, zaftig, and otherwise shapely. It's just that all too often those who are unreasonably overweight tend to undermine their own shortcomings, when it comes to keeping it in check, by claiming and unrelated or nonexistent health issue.
Re: Part Devil's Advocate.
May 24 2010, 16:12:37 UTC 7 years ago
An Inuit girl would be borderline anorexic at my current, size 14, weight. My cousin Kelly, who is built like a twig, would be morbidly obese. Neither of them would be healthy; I'm doing fine. I don't feel undermined or degraded, I just think that "health" and "size" are very individual, and saying, blanket, "skinny people are healthy people" doesn't work for me at all.
Re: Part Devil's Advocate.
May 26 2010, 05:50:48 UTC 7 years ago
Re: Part Devil's Advocate.
May 26 2010, 14:45:45 UTC 7 years ago